If you have any suspicions that this person is a narcissist and you ended the relationship, you do not get back into it. Because if the narcissist comes back, it’s purely for revenge. They’re going for maximum impact—maximum pain that they can inflict upon you.
And the reason they go so hard for revenge after they’ve been discarded is because it’s painful for them. That alone can be a form of karma because the discard really shakes that false persona. It shakes the image of themselves that you need them and you can’t live without them—and that no matter what they do to you, you’re just going to keep coming back.
So even just for the moment, they have to see themselves for who they are. And that is very painful for a narcissist.
I know a lot of you are saying, “No, no, not enough. That is not enough to balance the scales.” And don’t worry—I promise I’ve got more for you. We’re digging deeper into this.
But for now, let’s look at another comment that really illustrates the point I’m trying to make here.
“A narcissist’s karma is their own lack of empathy, inability to truly love other people, and their vicious revenge over perceived slights, along with their never-ending envy and jealousy.
I really believe the best karma for a narcissist is truly letting go, healing, and healthy development of yourself. Contentment, serenity within you, and keeping your heart open to safe people is their karma. We no longer care. Life is good just without them in it.”
So yes, this commenter takes it to the next level. Not only does the discord become a narcissistic injury, but walking away and living your best life is another way to send the message that this person does not matter to you. And that can cause another injury for the narcissist.
And it’s hard for us to understand if you’re not a narcissist how deep these injuries really hit. But you may also know that a narcissist may not allow themselves to sit in that place of pain for too long.
But walking away and living your best life—whether you were discarded or you were the one who was discarded—is a good way to get that ball rolling. And you’re not doing it with bad intentions for the other person. You’re really wanting the best for yourself.
That truly is the way to give yourself the best—to focus on you, self-care, and self-love. That’s what you need after a relationship like this. And it’s also what will start that karma ball rolling.
So now, as promised, we’re digging deeper, and we’re looking at what happens when a narcissist realizes they’ve lost control over you.
So what they’ll do is look for something to replace the role that you had in their life. Maybe they discarded you, but they thought they could put you on the shelf and pick you up anytime—and now you’re sending the message that that’s not going to happen.
Or maybe you left them, and they never thought you would have the courage or confidence to do that—to live your life without them. Not only that, but actually live a happy life.
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