Number three: Do you genuinely believe your opinions are facts, and they supersede others?
A narcissist cannot authentically answer this question. On the surface, if you were to ask them, they’ll say, “Oh yes, of course I believe my opinions are facts. It is the reality.”
But deep down, if they were even 1% honest with themselves, they’d admit that they’re making things up. They’re crazily creating narratives in their head—and then delusionally believing their own self-talk.
Essentially, they gaslight themselves first, before gaslighting somebody else. And before they gaslight you, they won’t tell you the truth—which means they cannot answer this question.
They’ll first convince themselves by continuously lying and lying and lying. Once they’re convinced about something, they will fight for it extremely well. That’s where that “strength” comes from.
People ask, “Do they know they’re lying? How come they seem so convinced?”
They do internal work. For example, if they cheat on you, they’ll justify it by saying, “Oh, you abandoned me.” But that’s not what happened. The truth is, you did everything in your capacity to keep them happy—but nothing was ever enough.
However, for a narcissist, what they say becomes their truth. That’s what they will always choose, no matter what the evidence shows.
4. Why are you so threatened by my differences?
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