When you become truly, genuinely confident after narcissistic abuse, you feel safe and comfortable being alone. Loneliness and the fear of ending up alone no longer drives your decisions. You’d rather be by yourself than with emotionally unsafe people. And that’s when your standards and your confidence begin to rise to a whole new level—effortlessly.
And the irony is that when we get to this place, we start attracting the best humans into our lives. Remember: your outside is a reflection of your inside. The more you learn to love you and love being in your own company, the more you’ll attract people who have the ability to love you in a healthy, lasting way.
And something else that happens when you become truly, genuinely confident is you begin to embody quiet authority. You don’t announce your healing. You don’t perform confidence. You simply embody it and radiate it. And insecure, empathy-impaired emotional manipulators feel it immediately—and they don’t quite know what to do with it. They find it uncomfortable. Disruptive. They can’t read you. They can’t hook you. They can’t manipulate you. And they can’t control you because you’re no longer operating from who you used to be. You’ve become someone else—someone they don’t know how to access. Someone they can’t affect anymore.
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