For example: a narcissistic parent losing all contact with the children they thought they had “caged.” They thought they owned them. Now when they’re older and the children recognize the narcissism in that parent, they completely cut them off—and the narcissist is left dry, like they’re left to die.
He takes away all their power, all their strength, all the things they used to boast about.
I’ve seen this happen with my own paternal grandfather—a militant narcissist who used to think of himself as God. He used to walk with so much pride and arrogance, and he loved the fact that he could instill fear in his family members.
Now he’s just a bunch of bones, left with loneliness rotting every single day. He doesn’t know what peace is. No child of his gives a damn about him—because they’re all narcissists like him.
He always says things like, “I used to be this,” and “I used to be that”—that delusional fantasy. He couldn’t live because he thought he would always stay young, always powerful.
But God brought reality to his face.
He lived a long life—which also, in a way, is what God does to them. They live a long life, and it’s not a gift. It is suffering.
The third thing God does to a narcissist is that he lets them live in a pure state of dissatisfaction and dysphoria.
The narcissist thinks nothing is enough. They want more and more and more. Nothing is enough for them. It’s like a vessel with a bottomless hole—everything leaks out.
They’re not thankful. They’re not grateful. This isn’t only applicable to the things they’ve achieved or the people they have in their life. It applies to every single thing—including themselves.
No matter what they do, they feel something is missing.
This is in itself a trauma response—many people feel that way—but they’re able to acknowledge it. They’re able to say, “I have this tendency to be a perfectionist, and I need to work on it.”
With the narcissist, it’s completely different.
That sense of something missing is always projected onto others—onto you—because if you’re their source of supply, they need you to dress better, gain weight or lose weight, look a certain way, do more for them, speak a certain way.
And no matter what you do, the target keeps moving.
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