Healthy people ride their success with their own hands, while narcissists willingly ride their own destruction. Even when they are fully aware that their actions will lead to downfall, they still choose to invest their energy in sabotage. In contrast, healthy people invest their energy in growth. This is one of the main reasons narcissists always fall behind the very person they try to destroy. While they’re obsessed with tearing you down, survivors focus on their own well-being. They move on, improve, and use their pain to build something better.
In the process of abusing their victims, narcissists unintentionally create independence, clarity, and resilience in the very people they’re trying to break, which eventually makes them obsolete. As a survivor, you become more intelligent because you’re forced to think, adapt quickly, and strategize simply to stay safe. Meanwhile, the narcissist remains stuck in the same miserable cycle, repeating the same behaviors again and again with different people. While they are busy watching your every move and waiting for you to stumble, you are doing something they are incapable of doing: evolving. You took the very fire they used to try to burn you and forged a stronger version of yourself. Months or years later, they look up and realize they’re exactly where they were when the abuse began, while you have disappeared over the horizon. They did not just lose you; they lost the race of life because they were too busy staring in the rearview mirror at you.
Reason 1: Running a Race While Looking Backward
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