Narcissistic individuals are everywhere, and they want to take advantage of you. They can be found in schools, workplaces, churches, and even among our family members and acquaintances. Some of us may be in intimate relationships with a narcissist. If you’ve already spotted a narcissist or strongly feel that someone you know is, then this article is for you.
Today, I want to talk about a few things you should not do around a narcissist, especially one who has already exposed themselves as the lying, manipulating, selfish abusers they are. How you conduct yourself around a narcissist will communicate to them how they should treat you. The best outcome is for the narcissist to want to avoid you. Yes, they may still gossip or slander you, but they will think twice before trying any of their games on you.
Now, let’s get into six things you should not do for a narcissist or around a narcissist.
Your Emotions Feed the Narcissist
The first thing you should not do is cry. Narcissists lack empathy, so you should never seek sympathy from a narcissist because they have none to give. They feed off negativity and the pain of others. When you cry around a narcissist, you are merely feeding their sinister ego. Your tears do not move them; instead, they make the narcissist feel good and even powerful in the moment that you appear weak.
Speak Up!
The second thing you should not do around a narcissist is support their lies. Narcissists are constantly lying, so it should be easy to catch them in a lie or two. You should challenge them; never stand by quietly or support what they say. If you have doubts about a past event, don’t just agree with the narcissist’s version. Let it be known that you either do not remember, or if you are sure of what happened, don’t be afraid to disagree. Narcissists hate opposition of any kind, so it’s best to speak up and challenge what they say. No matter how much they try to downplay their lies, treat it like a big joke, or nudge you to play along, don’t. Otherwise, their lies will grow larger, and you will be viewed as an accomplice.
Don’t Make Excuses
The third thing you should not do is make excuses for their bad behavior. Narcissists do not take accountability for their actions, so one of the worst things you can do is start making excuses for them too. Let them own up and deal with the consequences. Narcissists are very strategic with everything they do and say. If you are making excuses, you are in denial of how manipulative and abusive the narcissist really is. While there may be issues of cognitive dissonance, it’s crucial not to deny that you are being abused. Don’t accept their lame excuses for their actions, and do not get into the habit of making excuses for them either. This will only make the narcissist more hardened and brazen in their wickedness.
Helping the Narcissist Always Goes Wrong
The fourth thing you should not do is try to change a narcissist. This is something the narcissist would exploit for your own demise. They will gladly place this burden on you and make you feel responsible for their happiness or direction. But it is not your responsibility, and the narcissist will only take advantage of you in the process.
Tell the Narcissist Nothing
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