You can expect angry texts, voicemails, and rageful tirades. It will become all about personal attacks as they hurl insults at you, usually projecting their own character defects and relationship crimes onto you, which is why so much of what they spew as they rage will make absolutely no sense to you. You know full well they’re not actually talking about you and who you really are, so don’t take any of it personally.
That said, don’t be surprised if they decide to ignore you back for a while in an attempt to reassert their sense of power, domination, superiority, and control. All I can say about that is enjoy the peace while it lasts because it’s likely to be short-lived. Meanwhile, they’ll go out of their way to assassinate your character, working hard to damage, if not completely destroy, your reputation in the spirit of entitlement, superiority, and revenge. The narcissist’s whole modus operandi will be to poison others’ perception of you with distorted narratives and outright fabrications. They are infamous for twisting the truth and manipulating perceptions to serve their own purposes, so expect them to use the truth out of context, lie by omission, as well as lie outright. In their view, they feel entitled to say whatever it takes to a) feel powerful and in control again and b) make you pay for having had the audacity to reject them in the first place.
Depending on how high they are on the spectrum of destructive narcissism, they may even become threatening or violent. So again, be careful, be smart, and stay safe always. When all else fails, you may find they even turn on the tears and attempt to sweet-talk you with insincere, half-hearted, and fully disingenuous apologies, as well as all kinds of empty promises. Anything they think you need to hear will be used as a ploy to regain your attention, energy, and affection. Whatever you do, do not fall for any of this. It’s a game—pure manipulation—and it won’t last.
Always remember, words are so easy to say when you’re dealing with someone who you know from past experience is really good with words but always falls short on consistent, reliable, and predictable amended behavior. Pay attention to their behavior, not their words. Again, words are easy, and a person with a destructive narcissistic personality pattern is not going to be able to back it up with any degree of consistency. So, stop hurting yourself by falling for the BS when their words and behavior do not match. You deserve better.
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