Real love doesn’t vanish when you need it. Real love doesn’t disappear when you disagree. Real love doesn’t ask you to betray yourself to keep the peace. When you meet someone new, watch their consistency, not their intensity. Anyone can sound like a dream in the beginning. Anyone can show up with flowers and fireworks. But genuine character shows itself in the quiet months, the routine moments, and the times when life isn’t glittering. Love bombing isn’t romance; it’s a strategy to accelerate attachment.
When someone pushes too fast, too intensely, or too soon, wisdom will whisper: slow down. Watch the fruit, not the show. After six months, patterns begin to breathe. The mask loosens, and words align with or betray intentions. With a narcissist, this is when cracks appear—the affection dims, entitlement rises, and criticism creeps in like a shadow.
That brings us back to the question people can’t help but ask: Will the narcissist ever be happy with the new supply? Only for a season, never for a lifetime. The narcissist idealizes the new supply the same way they once idealized you—not because the new person is special, but because the narcissist is projecting a fantasy. The narcissist is looking for a mirror, not a partner; a reflection, not a relationship. But when a new supply shows humanness—needs, boundaries, imperfections—the pedestal becomes a prison.
Admiration turns into irritation. The cycle of idealization and devaluation ignites again. Obsession becomes criticism. Attention becomes indifference. Passion becomes resentment because the problem was never the partner; the problem lives inside the narcissist. That emptiness didn’t come from nowhere. Many narcissists grew up in environments where love was conditional, inconsistent, or absent. Some were deprived of tenderness; others were overloaded with praise and spared accountability. Both extremes produce the same wound—an adult who feels empty inside but wears entitlement-like armor.
Behind the arrogance lies a child who never truly felt seen. Behind the defiance lies a heart afraid of irrelevance. Behind the manipulation lies a fear of being unlovable. That wound never healed. So the narcissist uses people the way others use band-aids—temporary fixes placed over permanent fractures.
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