Finally, number five: you showing intelligence or emotional depth. Let’s talk about your mind. You are a smart person with deep thoughts. Maybe you’re watching a complex movie and figure out the plot twist before they do. Maybe you solve a problem with the house finances that they couldn’t figure out. Perhaps you demonstrate incredible emotional maturity during an argument by staying calm and logical while they spiral. You feel good about this. You feel competent, you feel smart. But the narcissist attacks you. They say, “Stop trying to sound so smart.” They might say, “You think you’re better than everyone else, don’t you?” They scoff at your ideas, even if they are the right ones. This is the superiority wound—a narcissist must always be the smartest, deepest, most talented person in the room. That is the core of their false self. If you shine and show that you have a sharp mind or a deep soul, it threatens their position. They feel stupid in comparison, and they cannot handle that. So, they must bring you down; they must make you doubt your own intelligence. They want you to feel small so they can feel big. They hate your emotional capacity because they lack it. They see you crying over a beautiful song or understanding a complex emotion, and they look at you as if you’re an alien. They cannot go to those depths; they are shallow water. So, when you dive deep, they hate you for it because it reminds them that they are stuck on the surface.
Conclusion: Embrace Your True Self
Look at this list again: children playing, loving a dog, laughing with a friend, asking for what you want, using your brain. These are the things that make life beautiful. These are the things that make us human. If these are the things that trigger your partner, you must ask yourself: What kind of spirit are you living with? You are living with a spirit that is allergic to life, allergic to joy. Please do not stop laughing.
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